Here’s a family dilemma that’s equal parts thoughtful and tricky. A mom is wondering if her son’s offer to pay for his sister’s egg freezing is crossing a line—and who should even bring it up.

The family has two grown kids: a 39-year-old son who’s doing really well financially and a 36-year-old daughter who’s currently single. The son, who recently became a dad thanks to his wife’s frozen eggs, wants to gift his sister the chance to freeze her own eggs. It’s a generous idea, but it comes with questions. Is it too weird for a brother to offer this? Should he bring it up, or should Mom step in? And could it come off as pity?

First things first: Mom, stay out of the middle. Mediating between grown-up kids might seem helpful, but it can create more distance than closeness. Let your son handle this himself. If he’s sincere, his sister might appreciate the gesture—even if she’s known to be a little guarded.

As for whether it’s “weird,” it’s actually pretty thoughtful. The son and his wife are living proof of how egg freezing can make a difference. It’s not about pity; it’s about giving his sister options. Of course, she might not even be interested in having kids, and that’s okay too.

The best move? Suggest your son and his wife talk to her privately, face-to-face. A letter or text could be misunderstood, and timing matters—egg freezing works better the younger you are.

So, is it weird? Not at all. It’s a loving gesture, and if that’s wrong, then let’s not be right.

And hey, if this helps spark a conversation about family dynamics, even better!